HONESTY WITH NEWCOMERS
Recovery Einstein's Big Book perspective on the AA Daily Reflection for December 18.
Well, my friend, honesty with newcomers isn't just a nice idea—it's the very foundation of Step 12. We learn in Chapter 7 that when we go to a still-suffering alcoholic, we must 'lay out the whole situation before him' [Page 89]. That means telling the truth about our own drinking, our hopelessness, and the solution we found. We don't sugarcoat; we don't pretend it was easy. We share exactly what it was like, what happened, and what it's like now—warts and all. Why? Because the newcomer's life depends on it. If we give them a polished, unreal version of recovery, they'll think they can't measure up, or worse, that they aren't as bad as we were. Honesty builds trust and shows them we have been where they are [Page 93]. That's how we carry the message.
When you share your story with a newcomer, is there any part you tend to leave out because it's uncomfortable? What would it mean to that person if you told the whole truth?
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Quick answers
What is the AA Daily Reflection for December 18?
The theme for December 18 is “Honesty with Newcomers.” Well, my friend, honesty with newcomers isn't just a nice idea—it's the very foundation of Step 12.
When you share your story with a newcomer, is there any part you tend to leave out because it's uncomfortable? What would it mean to that person if you told the whole truth?
Honesty builds trust and shows them we have been where they are [Page 93]. That's how we carry the message. (Big Book: Chapter 7, pages 89-98)