Renamed as Shame
Daily Traditions · December 5
The argument arrives sounding like liberation: anonymity is stigma in a virtue's clothes, and people should recover out loud. The mechanism is renaming — take a spiritual discipline, call it a symptom, and every act of humility reads as evidence of the disease. Once the frame sets, publicity becomes the prescription and the Tradition becomes the problem. But the definition was written first (A.A. pamphlet P-43): "Anonymity, as we observe it in A.A., is at root a simple expression of humility." And the program's stated aim runs dead against the shame reading: "to put our self-respect on a solid base of truth, rather than on fantasies about ourselves." A member practicing this Tradition is not hiding in disgrace. He is declining to be enlarged. Different acts, different engines — and only one of them has anything to do with shame.
The capture renames humility as a symptom, so publicity can be prescribed as the cure. Where have I let someone rename a thing I do — and then treated the new name as true?
Grounded in: P-43 (Tradition Twelve).
Tradition 12
"Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities."
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